Issue of October 7, 2018
Mt. Province

Panagbenga Flower Festival
Other Links:

Parents’ involvement helps pupils achieve better

The active involvement of parents in school contributes to the achievement of their children. But it is a dismay that there are parents whose only participation in the upbringing of their children is to provide material things, ignoring school-related activities.

When the teacher calls for a meeting, they hesitate to attend because they are preoccupied with their work and according to them it would be a waste of time since they need to work to be able to support their family.

One of the reasons why parents don’t attend parent-teacher meetings is they worry about embarrassing themselves in front of other attendees with the poor performance and misbehavior of their children in class.

Sometimes it is frustrating that many parents excuse themselves during assemblies where important matters need to be discussed. They don’t realize that this is the best time for them to express their ideas and opinions for the improvement of the school and on how to help pupils develop in different aspects.

Researches have shown that a parent’s involvement has substantial benefits to children. They achieve more, regardless of ethnic or racial background, socioeconomic status, or parents’ educational level. They generally achieve better grades, test scores, and attendance. They consistently complete their homework. They have better self-esteem, are more self-disciplined, and show higher aspirations and motivation. Their positive attitude about school often results in improved behavior in school and less suspension for disciplinary reasons. Fewer children are being placed in special education and remedial classes. Children from diverse cultural backgrounds tend to do better when parents and professionals work together to bridge the gap between the culture at home and the culture in school.

Henderson and Berla noted that when parents increase their interaction and discussion with their children, they become more responsive and sensitive to their social, emotional, and intellectual developmental needs. When parents gain more knowledge of child development, they have a better understanding of the teacher’s job and the school curriculum. When they are aware of what their children are learning, parents would more likely help when they are requested by teachers to become more involved in their children’s learning activities at home.

 Parents should understand that they are the partners of the school in the realization of the objectives of their children’s education.


No laughing matter

There’s a principle in child rearing that we should never laugh when babies or toddlers do something mischievous even though it seemed funny or cute. Laughing at them would simply reinforce their action, making them think we like and agree with what they did; hence, they tend to repeat that behavior.

There’s another principle that says in a group of kids with some behaving and others misbehaving, it would be a mistake for us to focus too much on those who misbehave. Focusing on them would also reinforce their action, making them think that every time they want attention, they can get it by misbehaving; hence there’s a high possibility that they will employ that tactic again.

But as I see it on media nowadays, I think these principles apply not only to children but also to people of all ages. When people in power speak up and make offensive statements, one can hear laughter from people nearby. When people of great influence post some blogs out of ignorance or just for fun, one can see some netizens liking and/or laughing at it.

Obviously, these reactions reinforce the actions of insensitive people in power and of great influence, making them think that such statements, behaviors, and blogs are acceptable in society. As the spotlight veers away from them for a moment, as hungry for attention as they are, they would do something senseless that would bring the spotlight back to them. As a result, ordinary people watch them, learn from their behaviors and now can easily do the same without any hesitation. Well, what do we expect?

So what do these teach us?

The way we react reflects the values that we uphold in our life. If we agree with somebody then we can laugh with him; that means we stand for what he believes in. But if we disagree with somebody then we don’t have to laugh to please him; we should let him know or see or feel that we disprove of what he said or did, which, in a way, is correcting his misconduct or misconceptions.

The way we react affects those people concerned; it can either build them or break them. It shows how mindful and considerate we are even in those seemingly light, unguarded moments. We can offend others when we laugh with individuals who offend them in any way; that’s indirectly participating in the offense made, for which we should feel guilty of. But if we refuse to laugh at an offensive statement and those people concerned see us, they would take that as a sign of respect.

Most importantly, the way we react teaches other people around us; we become role models. If we react wisely and humanely, we teach them to be considerate of others when they do or say something. But if we react mindlessly, we teach them to become impulsive and insensitive in doing or saying something. We also teach them to be people-pleasers instead, not ones who can stand their own ground.

Wise people know when to laugh and when to not laugh because they can distinguish a laughing matter from one that is not. Let’s make a difference. Let’s react mindfully.

Your Ad Here

Home | About Us | Editorial Policy | Contact Us
News | Opinion | Snapshots | Week's Mail | Obituaries
Copyright © 2007. All Rights Reserved.