Marriage bliss for Sam and Giselle
Our Attorney Giselle tied the knot with Pastor Sam, Friday the 13th at the Infinity Garden of the BCC and they have been preoccupied with all the details of preparing for their momentous day. The ceremony we witnessed was one for the books – brief but perfect.
To the newlyweds, ceremonies ought to be brief; it is the marriage that God intended should last a lifetime and you made a promise to stick to each other no matter what. The vows you made are beautiful words representing even more beautiful intentions. But you will find that as you live these vows over the years, investing your time and your love and your commitment to one another, the happy times of your life will be twice as joyous, because there will be someone to share those joys with. And when life gets tough, it will only be half as bad, because there will be someone by your side to help carry the burden.
A happy marriage is a matter of give and take; the husband gives and the wife takes. Your marriage should mark the beginning of a special relationship set in an atmosphere of unity, patience, understanding, sacrifice, and love. These, after all, are the essentials of a faithful, enduring marriage.
A marriage certificate is very much like a blank lotto ticket. It carries the anticipation for a rosy future. Everything always perfect from now on. At the time of acquiring it, however, there is nothing to distinguish the jackpot from an out-and-out no-hoper! Like lotto, marriage requires input from you. Like lotto it all depends on the selections or decisions that you make. Unlike lotto, having made the initial decisions, you can’t just sit back and wait to see if your prize has come up. Marriage is a participation game and requires love, attention, and constant tweeking and fine tuning. Marriage will teach the husband loyalty and self-restraint. It will develop in him a sense of humility, fair play, and many other qualities which he probably wouldn’t have needed if he had stayed single.
“Women are meant to be loved, not understood.” The wife will always have the last word in any argument – any word that you come out with afterwards is by default, the start of a whole new argument! And always remember those two invaluable words “Yes, dear.” Always remember as a great philosopher once said, a man who gives in when he is wrong is a wise man. Whilst a man who gives in when he is right is married.
As you go along the path of married life, you will certainly meet difficulties great and small; and when they come you should have the courage and fortitude to overcome them.
To your parents and sponsors, you are taking on a new relationship to this couple who were joined in marriage today. This means releasing them to pursue their ideals of partnership. But in their joys as well as in their struggles, they will need our wise counsel and support and which in their behalf I say we will.
My words for husband to wife: Now that we’re taking this very important step in our lives, I promise to protect you, to love you, to guide you as we go through the many endeavors in life, life will not be easy. I know there will be many trials. Through them all, I assure you that I will always be by your side to pray with you and stay with you. You are my friend and my love, with you, I will share my life; to you, I will be faithful; to you commit I my love.
My words for wife to husband: I love you and will love you for the rest of my life. I pray and trust the Lord to give me the strength and wisdom to lead you and our future children towards the path of righteousness. I thank God for bringing you into my life. I treasure and accept you with all my heart. As we begin our journey together, I promise to love and adore you, trust and respect you. I want you to know that I will give you my finest love, care and attention and I will always be by your side to support you, to love you and be loyal to you in all circumstances that we may come across. I am committing myself to you, to know and understand you, to share myself with you in our goal, interests and desires. I shall submit to your headship. I acknowledge that I could not do all these without completely trusting in our Lord Jesus Christ who has brought us together, and who showers us with His grace, forgiveness, and unfailing love.
Finally, to complete and sustain such a relationship do not and never forget that it is a love triangle. In the covenant you solemnly made, you have invoked the presence and additional participation of God who is the third person of your triangle of love. God should always be part of your relationship. In good times as well as in bad times, God should always be part of the euphoria or the agony. You will overcome these initial obstacles and difficulties as long as you trust each other and trust in God's help. God will always help you doing the things you should do and avoiding the things you ought not to do.
We charge you both, on the authority of God and His Word, to heed the divine pattern of marital relationships. Imagine a triangle and place God at the top pad of your relationship. In such a figure, the closer you come to God, the closer you move toward each other. Conversely, the farther too you are from each other. But regardless of distance, let it be declared that God can never be dismantled from the triangle. You belong to Him and He promised never to leave or abandon His children. Let God’s word be the absolute source of your direction in all your undertakings and relationships, Let it be the source of strength and comfort when you need them.
Congratulations and may you have decades of blessed and prosperous years ahead of you. May your marriage be filled with happiness and love that never ends. May you not only be sweethearts but the very best of friends. May God abundantly bless you both! May you live as long as you wish, and have all you need for as long as you live. May the road you choose be smooth, and your burdens light. May your joys be everlasting. Sigh!